Circumstances are not scrambled eggs. Circumstance and emotions come as a single unit, much like the yoke and the white of an scrambled egg. A scrambled egg can’t be separated back to yoke and white, but circumstance can be separated from emotions.
We just need to see ourselves as an observer of our life for a short period of time.
When a circumstance is viewed without the attached emotions it becomes neutral. Once neutralized by this changed perspective, the emotions and the circumstance, stand alone. At that point we become free to choose.
All emotions are a transfer of energy based on a belief. If we alter the belief, the emotions will follow.
Could this circumstance be seen as an opportunity instead of a disaster? A small deal instead of a big deal? Common wear and tear instead of something out to get me?
The energy of an emotion can also be viewed separately. When they are alone they are easily recognized. From a different perspective they can be felt and dealt with accordingly.
Oh, this is anger or fear, maybe disappointment.
This recognition brings us to the point where we can act instead of react.
Anger, e.g., is this worth the discomfort, maybe I can let this go?
Fear, e.g., how great is the danger? It’s ego threatening, but not life threatening.
Disappointment, e.g., I’m sad, I’ll feel it awhile, but this will pass.
The small step of seeing yourself as an observer of your life, instead of an endurer, opens many new opportunities for yourself.
Feelings are there to be felt, they are our energy gauge that teaches us what we believe, our likes and our dislikes. They teach us who we are. Discovering how they work can help use navigate our lives more comfortably.